Throughout life when addressing problems, you can really only take two positions. You can either be the victim and blame others, your environment or your circumstances or you can be the creator and take ownership over the situation.
Where this gets tough is that it is exceedingly difficult to believe that you are the single source of your own problems. I mean if you were 100% responsible for everything in your life, why would you “create” uncomfortable problems, situations, or scenarios that you’d have to deal with? If you were 100% responsible, you’d probably create a life that was smooth sailing and every goal would be simple to achieve, right?
Even people that seem to have complete control over their lives and things “appear” to come easy, deal with problems or tension. The difference between the one that can use problems for their benefit and one that gets trapped in a cycle of misfortune, lies in their perception of the situation. It’s easy for us to look on social media and see people that seem to have the magic touch, and everything seems to fall into their lap, but the truth is, those people deal with problems and tension all of the time. The difference would appear to be the type of problems they have. The common denominator is that problems essentially “feel” the same for everyone and can be identified simply as tension.
Victims will experience tension and instantly point the finger outside of them. This, honestly, is a natural tendency. It was probably an adaptable trait we acquired to identify dangerous situations. Our senses are quick to identify happenings in our environment to cast blame. A simple change in perception as to “How did I create this situation?” expands the possibility for a personal change to correct the victim cycle. No one wants to admit they are wrong and no one wants to admit they are the cause for all of the bad things that happen in their lives. The secret is, once you are strong enough to take ownership over everything that happens in your life, it gives you complete control over the creative process.
The world would not exist without problems. Wouldn’t you prefer to consciously create your own problems instead of unconsciously create your own problems? The way I come to think of this process is through goal setting and action items. By creating goals in every aspect of your life and listing out action items you will take to achieve those goals, you essentially create tension between where you are at now and where you want to be. The more uncomfortable the tension the bigger reward or payout of the goal.
Even with this proactive approach to life there will still be areas that are “asleep”, unconscious problems will arise and it’s up to you to take ownership over the unfortunate events. From there you will have something to work with and you can transition from victim to the creator.
